More often than not we live our lives for the other person who lives in us, we fail to figure out our self, and yet pamper the other person in us. most people are other persons, there thoughts are someone’s else's opinion, their lives are others mimicry, their passion are quotations.
Wondering if all of us live by the other person inside us.
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If you do then there is a problem !! not just a philosophical but also a spiritual and real-world problem.
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I guess this is how most grow to be... Very few let an individual grow on its own, they always have to be a type, that others (parents, society etc) approve of.. n others approve you, when they see a little of them in u...
ReplyDeleten when u break d rules n go to 'live' to be 'you'... you are labelled as a rebel....
'Be a rebel’:D
The pity is, hardly will u find one, who can tell u who 'he is' and what 'his dreams' are.
What you say is true Shipra about a lot of people who are not in touch with them selves. I will not qualify that as "most people" though.
ReplyDeleteAs far as someone telling you who he/she is or what their dreams are; most people have an aversion to sharing their most intimate details (its not like everyone has skeletons in their closets or has something to hide .. it just human nature). A married couple will spend a life time of discovering who their partners are.
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The stories and fables that we were told about when we were kids, were with the intention that when we grew up to become the super hero of the fable.
ReplyDeleteOur process of upbringing is to enamor those who have made it big, and the successful.
However what is interesting to know is that, all of us work by a yard stick set by our self, conscious or not we all set our own yardstick, and measure every thing based upon it, that’s how we judge things to be good or bad. Each one of us must have come across ppl who are rigid, and do not budge from their stand, their way of thinking, who refuse to accept that there can be more than one way that things can be, other than what the individual has perceived it to be.
If we believe this to be true what a ridicule we are playing with our self, we hardly spent time to spent time with our self, we try to understand other ppl, when we don’t understand our self. I guess what we need to do is to map our mind, understand how it behaves, chk for situations where I reached the boiling point, and like wise chk for the freezing and chilling points. The more we know our self the less we will compare our self to others and also find a direction to our self….
PS this I what I think… do post in your thoughts on it.
The process of upbringing is to enable the child to think for him/her self.
ReplyDeleteEmulating some one else is like living that persons life. People who do that are living a "false reality" if i can call it that. You will see hundreds of fans of film stars in India who do this, they dress up talk like and walk like the star they follow but remember they are not the star.
The process of life is to learn, what we learn creates the "morals","values" and "ethics" that a person will follow. to give you an example. For a thief his/her moral system allows for stealing to be the right thing to do. But for the rest of humanity it is wrong. At the same time if the thief is thought or learns on his/her own a moral code that is superior to his/her own code he/she will switch to the superior code for example the Indian Sage Kalidasa.
No person is rigid. Everyone can and will change their core ideas if there is a better idea that would work. Eg The USSR gave up Communism.
The most sure way of loosing friends and family is when you criticize just for the sake of criticizing; it has to be constructive .. i.e aid in development of the person getting criticized and also aid the development of the person who criticized in the first place.
Mind mapping is not something that can be achieved by asking questions about behavior, but by asking questions about the thought process that results in a particular behavior. The answers that you may find will be hard to digest and at some time outrageous and shocking. Mind mapping will only work if you are honest in answering the difficult questions.
The real question is how may of us are really honest with ourself's?
Find the true answers and you will know what direction to take in life. Give your self the wrong answers and life will always seem hard and difficult.
There is no point in comparison with some one else as that person is not going to live your life for you nor are you going to live your life for that person. Comparison of life/lifestyles is a trivial pursuit that has no result or implication to your life. It is "time pass".
For those that read my post a few days ago about the two sentences; you will probably realize why i liked the second sentence now. If now i am open to questions as always
Take care
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funny i could not edit .. The last sentence should read
ReplyDeleteIf not i am open to questions as always
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